I’m just a bit heartbroken and could do with some support.
My partner and I met in a country that we both are not from (I’ve been here for most of my life, but it is notoriously difficult to get permanent residency here so I am on a work visa). We’ve been dating for a year and he’s everything I’ve wanted, and more.
We’ve had a couple of difficult conversations over the last few days and have realised that there’s no way to make this relationship work. I want to move to a country that he has no interest in going to, and vice versa.
I don’t know how to deal with the pain of knowing that this was the right person, just the wrong time. On top of that, is this my fate as an expat? Should I only date once I know where I want to “settle down”, so to speak?
That’s the thing, until this point my mindset was that I would go wherever he wants to go, because he mattered more to me than the place I ended up.
But when we talked, he made it clear that he wasn’t at the headspace where he was thinking of our future together. That was a bit of a wake up call for me, and I realised I needed to prioritise my desires instead of casting them aside and having nothing to show for it.