I’ve moved away from my home country for about a year now.

Whenever I can, I try to stay in touch with family back home via the phone or messaging apps, I’ve never been super attached to my family, but every family has their issues, nevertheless I try my best.

After finally getting my residency in my new country, I was planning on going back home, and I just feel like nobody in my home country cares, I would be writing excited messages about visiting home just to get very cold responses. It feels like everyone has moved on and forgot about me. I know my mom and relatives have never been expressive, but the least you could do is look forward to me visiting. Last week I got covid, although I wasn’t dying or anything, but when I told family members, all they did was reply “take care” and that was it. I know everyone has their own personal problems, but I just can’t help but feel kind of sad that nobody in my home country seems to care about me anymore.

  • Minute-Masterpiece98BEnglish
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    10 months ago

    Yeah that happens. Try 7 years away and you are only more out of the loop.

    I’m at an age where those old friends are having families of their own now, so it’s to be expected.

    I try and remind myself that even if I were to have stayed at home, it’s very likely my social circles would have changed anyway.

    Friends coming in and going out of your life is pretty normal.

    • adria999999OPBEnglish
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      10 months ago

      I wasn’t referring to friends as I know those coma and go, was more referring to immediate family

    • MrJim911BEnglish
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      10 months ago

      I do the same regarding your comment about reminding myself my situation would be similar had I stayed in my home country.

      I’m not OP, but I got my Portuguese residency within 7 months of applying. It went pretty quickly.

  • abstract_explorerBEnglish
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    10 months ago

    Nothing unusual. Few more years, and you will forget them as well. If you had good time in the past, keep it as a good memory. Nothing more.

  • CannabisGardenerBEnglish
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    10 months ago

    I’ve been back home after year stints 3 times. When I go back I see my friends and have fun for 2 weeks and then everyone is too busy, I feel like 2 to 3 weeks is the sweet spot for visiting

  • 013016501310BEnglish
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    10 months ago

    Make new friends in your new country. Your old friends, no matter how precious, are getting on with their lives and we can’t ask them to do anything different.

    It’s like driving a car, you just need to glance at the interior mirror, don’t stare into it otherwise you’ll crash and have a breakdown.