I realise this is the kind of question that will elicit completely different answers depending on each person personal situation, but anyway, I am curious to hear about other people’s stories.
I have been living in the UK for nearly eight years and I can’t say I have one really close friend who is British, and this is despite being very well integrated here (my partner is English).
I’ve heard endless experiences from other expats that are similar to mine, where most if not all their closest friends are other expats. This could be just a London thing, simply because of the amount of foreigners here. Also I am in my mid fourties, so establishing meaningful relationships is simply harder (no offense, but I am not that interested about hearing how you, a 20 something, has plenty of British friends).
I am not asking how to make friends, thank you, I can figure out that joining a club or volunteering or whatever is a great way. I am mostly curious to hear from others if this is a common experience.
It’s the eternal expat / immigrant conundrum.
What your experience isn’t unique to London or the UK.
Especially when you edge closer to your later 20s and the likelihood of people settling down and having families increases, they aren’t going to be as motivated to socialise. Meeting and greeting new people no longer becomes their priority.
At 40+, it’s bound to be a challenge so i definitely wouldn’t be too hard on yourself.