So this is a serious question that is related to this show.

I’ve never watched the show, but a friend brought it up to me when I told them I had met someone while I was traveling and really hit it off, so I was going to go back and visit them again for a bit longer to see how things go. They excitedly laughed and said that it sounded like “a real life 90 Day Fiance” situation.

The friend explained the basic premise of this show, and said they were excited for me to see what happened. I felt a little weird about the comment, but took it in stride, since this was the first person in a long time I had been excited over.

I just randomly came across this sub and… it seems like this show is somewhat mean-spirited, in that’s it’s kind of making fun of people who are doing outrageous and outlandish types of behaviors on the fringe of societal acceptability. One comment on here said “they are not our best and brightest.”

Was this friend actually insulting me with that comment? I had weird feelings about it, but kept brushing it off as overthinking. But now, I’m really not sure anymore. Thanks in advance.

  • slavicblonde77BEnglish
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    10 months ago

    I don’t think it’s an insult at all. It sounds like she was just referring to the premise of the show and relating it to your relationship

  • agnusdei07BEnglish
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    10 months ago

    No, not an insult. 40 years ago I knew a girl who was 400 lbs, finding no one in the US and met a guy in Ireland, she was a lawyer and he was a–odd jobs/construction, and she brought him here and they have been married and have kids who are adults and they have a happy life. She had gastric bypass when they first came out, lost alot of weight, wanted to cheat on him and live the life she never had; but I convinced to not do that, she gained all the weight (and more) back and then had a lap band and now settled into a good weight for her, maybe 200 lbs. It all happened before 90 day but if it happened now, it would be referenced for certain along with maybe a few more ‘shows’ that I can think of at the moment. :) but not an insult to you, be happy!

  • HagbardCelineHereBEnglish
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    10 months ago

    Uh, depends if they think of you as more of a David and Sheila, or more of a Rob and Sophie

  • Key_Professor_3222BEnglish
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    10 months ago

    I’m sure your friend was just trying to relate. As long as you’re here, read all the things to see if you notice any red flags most other couples in your situation have. Also, watch Love in Paradise. That may fit your situation more aptly.

  • Fluffy_Iron6692BEnglish
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    10 months ago

    I don’t think your friend meant any malice by it! It’s a reality show so it’s inclined to show people in toxic situations for views. But, the first couple of seasons of the original show were wholesome and shined the K-1 in a good light. Don’t be offended!