I genuinely think more people need to take a step back and look at themselves, like really look at themselves, before they start shit-talking other people.
It’s fine to not want to be an athlete, or to be bleeding-heart volunteer, but those who do put that effort in are naturally going to be the ones who get the most attention. That’s life.
Unironically what I learned from DBT. “If you want people to be impressed with you, think up something really impressive that you could do and go do that.”
No, this doesn’t help. A specific person you care for can’t be diminished into that general “attention” thing.
So you look at yourself more critically. Then something like what’s described in the post happens, and then you still feel pain, but it’s dull and you can’t locate it, so to say, because in the universe you imagine after such advice you’ll find plenty of reasons you are flawed and nobody should look at you.
And then after some time you understand that the pain is there because really everybody has flaws, “that other guy” included. It’s just that you haven’t been accepted and “that other guy” has been. Somehow your flaws were worse and your advantages not as significant as those of “that other guy”.
And - everybody wants to be accepted, without being the best and the coolest. Just for being a human.
I genuinely think more people need to take a step back and look at themselves, like really look at themselves, before they start shit-talking other people.
It’s fine to not want to be an athlete, or to be bleeding-heart volunteer, but those who do put that effort in are naturally going to be the ones who get the most attention. That’s life.
Unironically what I learned from DBT. “If you want people to be impressed with you, think up something really impressive that you could do and go do that.”
While I absolutely agree with your reply, what’s a DBT?
Dialectical behavior therapy
At least its short form doesnt share space with Cock and Ball Torture. Telling people when I got into Group CBT was fun xD
Edit: Damn, lots of haters of Cognitive Ball Therapy
“Remove the log from your eye before you try to remove a twig from your brother’s”
No, this doesn’t help. A specific person you care for can’t be diminished into that general “attention” thing.
So you look at yourself more critically. Then something like what’s described in the post happens, and then you still feel pain, but it’s dull and you can’t locate it, so to say, because in the universe you imagine after such advice you’ll find plenty of reasons you are flawed and nobody should look at you.
And then after some time you understand that the pain is there because really everybody has flaws, “that other guy” included. It’s just that you haven’t been accepted and “that other guy” has been. Somehow your flaws were worse and your advantages not as significant as those of “that other guy”.
And - everybody wants to be accepted, without being the best and the coolest. Just for being a human.