… Or useful. Because I entered badoo and it ask for an expensive fee just to talk with anyone.

  • jet@hackertalks.comEnglish
    6·
    4 months ago

    I use tinder, it’s been really good for me.

    The key is to use the app that is popular in your location.

    Attitude is a huge factor, think of it just like meeting random people, maybe having great discussions, maybe having an excuse to go to event with somebody, having a good adventure. No pressure no expectations. If you have a plan people love to join the plan. So the initial swipe match game is what it is. You can have a friend with a good camera take some nice photos, you can show interesting places, interesting things, let the app choose your most engaging photo for you automatically.

    When you talk to people find something interesting about them, ask them questions about it, have your own agenda, invite them to events you already have planned and no big deal if they don’t go. Surprisingly most people want to go and see what this cool thing you’re doing is. And then from there you know you can build up.

    The dating apps are just a meeting place of people who are interested in meeting people. If you treat it like that, just like a happy hour, you’re going to have a great time

      • jet@hackertalks.comEnglish
        1·
        4 months ago

        Should we examine your profile?

        Your username here is blow me, how is your dating app presence?

        Are you putting up any red flags, without realizing it?

        • BlowMe@lemmy.worldOP
          22·
          4 months ago

          I’m the boring nature type, I don’t have anything in my name, live with my family, but I’m loyal and respectful enough with the people I care. Isn’t that enough?

          I’m not even physically ugly.

  • paddirn@lemmy.worldEnglish
    6·
    4 months ago

    So useless that they’re probably just going to convert over to AI chat apps and you’ll just know from the get-go that everybody you talk to is a bot (instead of just 4 out of 5 users being bots). I’m guessing they’ll farm that sweet, juicy user-data from however many years now to train their AI on. Base level will be a semi-interested friend, but the higher-subscription level you pay into will unlock romantic options, naughty (ai-generated) pics, and they’ll eventually add a feature where you can go on virtual dates with your AI companion and they can scan your pictures/photos and make comments on what you “saw together” on your date. Maybe they’ll even insert themselves into the images to make it seem like they were really there. Hell, they’ll probably even get to a point where you can have live voice chats with them.

  • Senseless@feddit.orgDeutsch
    3·
    4 months ago

    Below average, nerdy, niche hetero guy here with no desire to every have any kids. I’m using dating apps since about November now.

    OkCupid: Not that common in my country, which is why I tend to get all kinds of “likes” from people all over the world. Mostly Africa. It has some - as I call it - “FOMO features” included. Meaning: I rarely get any likes when I use premium. The second(!) I don’t have premium any more and can’t check the people that swiped me, there are suddenly 7 likes. It’s a money grab, nothing more. The only interesting thing about it, is the vast amount of questions you can answer and compare with people you swipe.

    Bumble: It’s basically the same hell hole everyone says tinder is. Also FOMO-features.

    Hinge: The profiles are somewhat limited, compared to other apps. There are some premium plans, but no FOMO-features. The only two dates I ever had came from this app.

    blindmate: It’s a very small new app. Not even sure if it’s already available in another language other than German. You can upload up to 6 pictures, set what you’re looking for (age, sex, type of relationship). All other things are done by friends you invite. They answer questions about you (max. 7/day) as well as swipe for you (max. 30/day). If your friends and the friends of the person your friends swiped for both give their okay, you’re matched. At first the main profile pic is pixeled until you exchanged a few messages. You can use Icebreakers which consist of answers of you and your match the friends have given. After a few more messages you can choose to unlock your profile for the match. I have 4 friends that swipe for me for months, 5300+ in total with a total of 28 matches. I’m starting to think that I am the issue here.

  • Jeena@piefed.jeena.netEnglish
    32·
    4 months ago

    It depends. For years I had either no or bad matches at home, always the same people showing up there, etc…

    But then one day while on a business trip abroad I installed a new app, payed the fee (for some reason, normally I never did) and matched with the most amazing person who made me move half way across the globe for her and now almost four years later we still live together, have a 1.5 years old son and plan finally to marry (there were some practical problems we had to fix first).

    For me it worked out, but that’s survival bias I guess.