Okay, so I know the clickbait-y title was a bit cringe. I’m 27, I’ve been a real estate agent for 3 years now after dropping out of college, and managed to bring myself up into the “luxury” market of real estate in that time. I’ll make just below $300k this year, which I think is pretty decent in this current economy of the US. My issue is, and I’m hoping many of you in this sub will be able to advise, is that I’m having an extremely hard time finding like-minded men to surround myself with. As mentioned, I just turned 27, I make 6 figures, in the gym at 5:30 6 days a week, got the nice car, etc, etc, etc. Now a lot of my clients I would consider friends, but they are all in their 40’s+, so not exactly my IMMEDIATE friends, I guess. My main friend group consists of the guys I’ve remained in contact with since high school or college, who are already acting like their retired and spending all their free time doing absolutely fuck-all, inviting me out to the clubs/bars at 10pm or later Thursday-Sunday, have ugly gf’s, talk about how nice it is that their job is wfh allowing them to play video games and watch Netflix the majority of the day, etc.
I honestly feel like I’m going crazy. I’m thinking of business ideas 24/7. I’m constantly looking for the next venture. I wake up extra early to watch Bloomberg before I start my day. I’m sure many of the men on this sub have similar mindsets, are you always this lonely? Do you always feel this isolated and individualized? If not, what type of efforts and where did you meet your “tribe”? I would do anything to be able to have someone to bounce ideas off of, or even start some new venture together, but I feel so isolated in my ambition.
too busy to feel lonely. (joking)
i’ve had reasonable success, now i’m just focusing on building up passive income streams that can free up my time. to be honest, i don’t want to fill that now freed up time with more work, but with family and chill stuff that i like.
my dad was like you, and he’s crazy successful, but ultimately had 3 divorces and now that hes entering retirement hes in somewhat of a panic, he has no hobbies or interests other than work, his relationships are a mess, his friendships only revolve around work meaning when he stops they also stop being relevant, too much of his identity and who he is is tide to his work, and since covid, even that has contracted (F&B), now hes struggling with what might be his legacy.
the point is, i get your ambitious, successful and want that, but also, dont forget to just relax and enjoy life and appreciate what you have and the non-material successes.