I’m just a bit heartbroken and could do with some support.

My partner and I met in a country that we both are not from (I’ve been here for most of my life, but it is notoriously difficult to get permanent residency here so I am on a work visa). We’ve been dating for a year and he’s everything I’ve wanted, and more.

We’ve had a couple of difficult conversations over the last few days and have realised that there’s no way to make this relationship work. I want to move to a country that he has no interest in going to, and vice versa.

I don’t know how to deal with the pain of knowing that this was the right person, just the wrong time. On top of that, is this my fate as an expat? Should I only date once I know where I want to “settle down”, so to speak?

  • pricklyvaginaOPBEnglish
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    10 months ago

    I’m curious, did you know that you were not compatible from the get-go? Or was that something that you realised over time? I don’t think I could’ve started seriously dating my partner, knowing that there was a deadline.

    In fact, I’m starting to feel it already. It may take up to 6 months for either of us to leave, and I already feel the dread of the eventual breakup.