For me it was Darksouls or souls games in general. I was the kind of gamer who values the narrative and the movie style games more than fun/gameplay first type of games.
After playing darksouls in 2020. I can’t stand these games anymore. I tried to replay horizon zero dawn (which was a 9/10 game for me) in preparation for forbidden west, and i just couldn’t set through the agonizingly long cutscenes and dialogs. And also don’t get me started on the hand holding.
The enjoyment comes from the satisfaction of overcoming insurmountable odds. But for this to be satisfying it has to be through your own skills and improvement. You need to learn from your mistakes and try different ways of approaching the challenge. This is why the hitboxes need to be very accurate (which they are in eldenring) so when you die it’s only your fault. And when you finally “get gud” and kill the boss you get a sense of accomplishment.