Sarper’s parents have never met a single one of his girlfriends, and he’s almost fifty years old, dating an alonat forty-five year old, yet they were convinced that they were getting grandchildren? What? When? How? I would’ve expected that they would have long given up on that.
Also, how is Sarper gonna go on about how responsible he intends to be when he ditched every chance he had to be a father to his first child for twenty five years?
Also also: why would you never have bright this up before, if it mattered so much to you?
I think this is a cultural thing. I come from a culture that is very much still this way. As a woman it’s your duty to birth the children and maintain the home. It’s a very prideful thing when a woman has multiple children especially back to back. Even how the mom said pregnancy is hard but she should sacrifice. Using the word sacrifice is such a different take on how America views pregnancy as a step towards a family not so much a sacrifice
I agree I think this is a cultural difference. And I don’t necessarily even think using the word “sacrifice” for pregnancy is wrong, IF both people view it that way. I think if Shekinah wanted to get pregnant and have a baby for Sarper’s sake that would be fine, but she’s already said she has no intention of it. To force her (or guilt her) into getting pregnant because culturally she’s supposed to have babies is the problem.
I personally knew of a Middle Eastern family who held this view of pregnancy, and the woman kept getting pregnant back to back. Sadly her body couldn’t sustain the pregnancies and she had continual miscarriages, and several babies that were born but were premature and died after birth. They had one son that survived and after her 16th pregnancy doctors told her it would be impossible for her body to sustain any more pregnancies. It was suggested that her husband have a vasectomy, but that was never even entertained in their culture, or her having her tubes tied or hysterectomy either.
Shortly after she got pregnant again against everyone’s wishes, including hers, but she did it because culturally she was "supposed " to "sacrifice " to give her husband children. And she died during a miscarriage later in the pregnancy, but the main thing her family said was that at least she died doing the most honorable thing a woman can do which is be pregnant and have children. I can’t help but wonder if Sarper’s parents would feel the same way.
They probably would that’s very much how my culture is. Even if you can barely afford the kids. And a miscarriage isn’t a medical thing it’s “not having enough faith” or you doing something wrong. I’m glad the world is getting more educated on how much of a toll pregnancy really does and can take on a persons body. I had HG during my pregnancies and it was terrible. Loosing more than 30% of my body weight and constantly stressing about my health and the babies health. I had never even heard of it until I had it. There’s really not much education about it all. A lot of the education is based on “don’t get pregnant until you’re married” and then “hurry and get pregnant”