I’m just a bit heartbroken and could do with some support.
My partner and I met in a country that we both are not from (I’ve been here for most of my life, but it is notoriously difficult to get permanent residency here so I am on a work visa). We’ve been dating for a year and he’s everything I’ve wanted, and more.
We’ve had a couple of difficult conversations over the last few days and have realised that there’s no way to make this relationship work. I want to move to a country that he has no interest in going to, and vice versa.
I don’t know how to deal with the pain of knowing that this was the right person, just the wrong time. On top of that, is this my fate as an expat? Should I only date once I know where I want to “settle down”, so to speak?
You have a fair point. Rationally, I do believe that there are many people you can be compatible with.
The emotional side of me is getting the better of me, however. Doesn’t help that I have very niche values, and have been told countless times that I’m never gonna find someone. Meeting my partner felt like proving that it was possible, and the fact that I’m losing it is very painful.