I’m just a bit heartbroken and could do with some support.

My partner and I met in a country that we both are not from (I’ve been here for most of my life, but it is notoriously difficult to get permanent residency here so I am on a work visa). We’ve been dating for a year and he’s everything I’ve wanted, and more.

We’ve had a couple of difficult conversations over the last few days and have realised that there’s no way to make this relationship work. I want to move to a country that he has no interest in going to, and vice versa.

I don’t know how to deal with the pain of knowing that this was the right person, just the wrong time. On top of that, is this my fate as an expat? Should I only date once I know where I want to “settle down”, so to speak?

  • swappybizzBEnglish
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    1 year ago

    I dont think it’s a big deal. Believe me when I say, missing someone can be a very very strong adhesive.

    Now I’m not saying this will fix everything, and please don’t get me wrong…but there will be a huge chance that one of you cave in.

    Even if it doesn’t happen you know YOU did do your bit.

    More over, a couple of tough talks doesn’t seem enough… have like 30 of them. Preferably in from a similar position. Maybe relaxed over a weekend? Not from between a fight or out of visa office . You know what I mean?