Jovi has been getting a lot of hate lately but I’m not sure that he deserves it. Of course right from the start they seemed to be the most normal couple on Last Resort so we wonder why they were there. Then there was a lot of drama that may or may not be scripted. Is he addicted to strip clubs? Maybe. He certainly enjoys it and if he was single and it isn’t leading to him being in debt I think it’s fine. It would be no different from spending lots of time gaming or playing poker. But of course he is married with a kid and Yara doesn’t like it so the expectation is that the strip club activity would at least be scaled back. But people have different reactions to their man going to strip clubs. I would say most don’t have a blanket ban and would allow their husband to say go to a strip club for a bachelor’s party but perhaps not be allowed to have a lap dance. Then there’s the drinking. Is he an alcoholic? I don’t know. But if he is, he’s certainly a high functioning one.
Of course there are things to criticize. He should discuss career opportunities with his wife and not lie about going to a strip club. He’s like a kid trouble to get out of trouble. He also shouldn’t be texting his stripper friend to come out knowing his wife would be upset. Again, don’t know if it was scripted but let’s assume that it’s not.
But all the comments about him being the worse or that he’s some kind of monster makes no sense to me. From what we know… Has he physically cheated like Asuelu? No. Does he become physically abusive when he drinks? No. Committed SA? No. Did he inflate or lie about his finances? No. An absolutely terrible father? No. Is he verbally abusive to Yara? No. If his main sins are sneaking off to strip clubs, not consulting his wife before turning down a job offer, and drinking too much… that doesn’t sound that bad to me. It’s not like Yara is a wallflower and their relationship doesn’t seem “toxic” to me.
In real life, I would have no issues with Jovi. He seems like a normal decent guy to me and his marital problems aren’t anything unsual. I wouldn’t stop being friends with him because of how he treats his wife. Ed, to me is the worst. If he had an issue with Jovi texting his stripper friend he should have said something to Jovi rather than purposely bring it up in front of Yara.
Your bar for relationships is lower than my own. That’s all I can say. My biggest prerequisites to getting married were that because I already had an amazing life as a single lady, I would only date a man who somehow made it even more fabulous (which was a tall order) and that I would never accept ‘if only’ in my thought process about a relationship. He’s so sweet, kind, and funny… if only he was more responsible about his spending. He’s so handsome, responsible, romantic, and great in bed…if only he didn’t hang out every weekend at a strip club.
That is fine. It’s your life. But I would say that there would be a time when your partner may be hurt by your expectations. Because essentially you’re asking your partner to provide you with only the positive and none of the negatives.
No… that’s definitely not what I said. There are negative traits that aren’t 'if only’s. If only’s are major traits that are the kinds of things the other partner can’t look past. For me, traits that I can’t budge on are smoking, drug use, excessive drinking, bad credit, mean to animals, mean to kids, mean to me, etc. Traits that bug me but I can look past… snoring, leaving dirty socks on the floor, not cleaning the bathtub after he uses it, weed whacking the wrong bushes,etc.