How to handle humiliation by family when you are a failed entrepreneur at age 35?

  • Mobile_Prune_3207B
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    1 year ago

    You can at least say you tried. Not everyone succeeds, it’s damn difficult to succeed, but you can at least say you made an effort.

    • dopaminedandyOPB
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      1 year ago

      They said what I did is not real work. Entrepreneurship is not real work, real work is to get a job. So, according to them I never tried anything or did any real work.

      • Ok_Efficiency_9645B
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        1 year ago

        Are you aware that these people are just fucking haters? They actually WANTED you to fail bc it makes them feel better about their own life decisions. They spent their lives being slaves to the timeclock, and you went out and tried to break the mold. Well…they can’t have that, lol. The entrepreneur is smart enough to realize that paying others to do work for them, is the only way to cash them big checks. The caveat, is its not easy to do.

      • Fine_Night_B
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        1 year ago

        No offense OP but your family members saying this are a bunch of idiots.

        A job was generated by “entrepreneurs” - so what are they thinking the job came from? The government??

  • fanomvibesB
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    1 year ago

    Your idea will fail eventually if it’s not a evergreen business. Don’t chase trends, don’t chase feelings. Ask yourself is this a evergreen product or not? You’re not going to fail if you sell things like pet supplies, or if you offer junk removal services. Cleaning services. Maybe a marketing agency? Not sure if marketing agencies can get replaced by AI, the creative aspect is what makes it somewhat evergreen. It’s constantly changing so you would have to adapt to the changes.

    Don’t over indulge in passion and stay away from overly complex industries. Find a balance between the two then voila! Success!

  • madz_thestartupguyB
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    1 year ago

    I’m 35, I have two failed startup’s in the past. It’s not really an old age, just keep trying. Have a job or side hustle that pays your bills and puts food on table. take all your past mistakes as a learning and forge forward with a newer problem to solve. Before you build, validate.

  • xag3rB
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    1 year ago

    Life itself consists of failing again and again. Just because you’ve failed doesn’t mean you’re a failure.

  • FootermoB
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    1 year ago

    I started my own business at age 25. Grew it to having 4 employees, sizable warehouse etc… 6 years later it failed. Crashed post -covid never recovered.

    Failing in businesses is not something to be humiliated by. The experience you gained is very unique and you likely don’t even know what you have learned until you find a full time position back in an office working for someone else. You will be thankful you tried.

  • PapaBashB
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    1 year ago

    I don’t think there is such a thing as a failed entrepreneur. The rate of failure is so high, that not succeeding is overwhelmingly the expected outcome. Success is closer to a miracle especially on the first go around.

    I say that, but some others would also call me a failed entrepreneur. However I would never agree to this, but at least I had times of high troughput money others only see in movies.

    Keep at it. Head high.

  • chalky87B
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    1 year ago

    Fuck em. You tried to build something from nothing which is something many talk about but ever have the balls/ovaries to ever attempt and you tried it in one of the most brutal world economies in the last century.

    They’re opinion of what work is or your business, is just that, an opinion. And it’s worth exactly as much as the value you assign to it, in other words it could be worthless.

    You have nothing to prove, nothing to defend and nothing to feel embarrassed about.

    My advice? Crack a joke about how your next business will be selling their hopes and dreams to other people since they’re never going to use them and crack the fuck on.

  • founderscurveB
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    1 year ago

    you never fail until you stop trying, this is simply an opportunity, now you can see who the people who will be there when you’re at your lowest are. i’m sorry its not your family, but at least now you know who to keep out of your will and who to not share your millions when you finally make it.

    Family are awful, you dont choose them, and i dont know about you, but my family were constantly critical of my life choices - at some point you need to learn to ignore the base less criticism and filter only the criticism that is valid.

    being an entrepreneur is one of the hardest things you can do career wise, the reality is the probability of failure is very high so the fact you didnt succeed this round is not even worth thinking about, just step up, brush yourself off and try again, walk your own path and dont worry what other think, it literally doesnt matter, dont take their criticism personally, at the end of the day, they aren’t walking the path, you are, and its easy to point faults from the sidelines.

  • guymclarenzaB
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    1 year ago

    Fuck em. If they had tried, would you humiliate them, sounds to me like these people are toxic, surround yourself with nicer people.

  • flyfightandgrinB
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    1 year ago

    Who gives a shit? Get back on that horse and start working on a new business model.