axont [she/her, comrade/them]

A terrible smelly person

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Cake day: October 4th, 2020

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  • Edit: I just realized this was blahaj, not beehaw. I can’t keep none of this stuff straight.

    That was lemmy.world. Beehaw was federated for a while but then if I remember right kept saying we’re not actually trans/gay friendly because we’re too tankie. Then they kept insulting one of our admins, who is a trans woman herself. Like they’d say we’re faking how queer we are. Then it turns out they have a really bad chaser problem and a bunch of our trans posters kept getting death threats or weird stalkers from over there. Also they’re so anti-tankie they occasionally swerve into outright saying reactionary stuff. They also like saying slurs.

    There was an attempt at damage control, then I think we decided to cut them off. Do I have all of that right? I really have problems remembering my Hexbearian lore, I’m sorry. We need a Bible




  • it depends on what I’m getting mad at. For instance, I don’t tend to argue/yell/confront people in real life. I only get mad at people if it’s online. In real life if I can look into someone’s eyes I’ll feel different about it. If it’s some racist person or someone being annoying, I look in their eyes and often see a little kid trying to rile people up, so I just feel sad. Or sometimes I’ll see nothing in their eyes. If someone is pure evil, I just don’t sense their soul anymore, so getting emotionally invested in them is like throwing a bucket of water into a black hole. Anger at them would go nowhere. I dismiss people like that, acknowledge what they are, and tell them to stop doing whatever they’re doing. Don’t say racist or transphobic or whatever stuff around me, simple as that, you know? usually being direct works the best. I have a 100% success rate so far, because people like that do get embarrassed easily if they’re in public, trying to confide something bigoted with me, then I’m not having it.

    Anger at situations though? I don’t deal with that in a healthy way at all. I turn all of it into self-hatred. I blame myself for every problem I have. If there’s a way out of doing that, I’d love to know, because this sucks.




  • Star Trek has more historical weight behind it. It more or less created modern scifi fandom. It’s probably so widely beloved because it’s unlike most scifi in that it’s hopeful. It sells you on the idea of a better future where everything could go right, where we can explore space and be chill with everyone. Other scifi franchises sell you on window dressing or a bad future full of the same problems we have now.

    People like Star Trek because they want it to be reality in a way that other scifi stuff just doesn’t do.


  • I do see it as an economic problem. Precarity is going to induce loneliness and tension. People are working more hours and there’s simply less ability to connect. There are fewer “third spaces” (places outside of work or home) these days, so people have reduced capacity to develop bonds with one another. All of that is going to generate mistrust and lack of friendship among people.

    Political tensions are high too, for instance, I would refuse to live with someone who expresses casual transphobic because I wouldn’t trust them to be around me.

    Furthermore this is a niche internet forum with a lot of nerds who have general social anxiety. Probably not a good cross section of a population.


  • The aversion to housemates represents a breakdown in social trust in general, plus people are just more precarious. You’ve got to hope your housemates can pay rent when all of you hold tenuous employment. One person losing their job is a disaster for everyone else. One person moving out can also be a crisis.

    I lived with housemates around 2010 to 2016 and it was a constant struggle to keep bills paid, plus we’d have to share vehicles and that was difficult since sometimes one of us would work nights, some of us days. Also revolving door of girlfriends/boyfriends who’d come in and eat our food or borrow cars.

    Not great experiences. Honestly some fun times looking back on it all. Was nice to be around friends or do movie nights. But otherwise it was a struggle to keep together.