I think that whole thought process has led to the current refs we have today that are inconsistent and low key seem like they have money on games. If you consistently don’t care how the refs do their job than what’s the point of having refs? I mean honestly If refs can’t change a game that much then we shouldn’t have them, eh? We need to have a system that makes sure refs uphold the rules of the game for both sides and I don’t understand why that is controversial to some fans of the game.
Personally I think the whole “if you complain about the refs, you’re a crybaby loser” and “at the end of the day, bad refs are no excuse for losing” mentality helps justify and normalize refs deciding the outcome of games.
Make the “non-judgmental” penalties like PI and holding reviewable, and at least half the problem is solved.
You can’t leave it up to the refs is just being a realist. It doesn’t enable anything. There will always be bad calls and mistakes.