Geez. Lots of non-baby havers here I guess. We had our third baby 5 months ago (June). I brought my Steam Deck and played a bunch of the No Man’s Sky expedition that was going on at the time. Trust me, there’s a lot more down time than you realize.

I held my baby for several hours, I let him chew on my (gloved) finger for a whole hour until my nerves felt pinched so I could let my wife sleep. I changed many diapers. I slept a little bit. But what are you going to do while your wife feeds for the twenty millionth time? Just stare at them? Trust me, staring at your kid in awe for 8+ hours does not make you a better dad. That comes in the multiple decades that come after all that.

Help as much as possible, relax when there’s nothing you can do.