• jeremyparker@programming.dev
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    Person doesn’t want to date person with OF

    Person with OF doesn’t want to date person

    It seems the universe is in harmony.

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      If you think about, this makes the most sense. A person with an OF is getting their rocks off without other people present most of the time. Unless they are doing content with someone who enjoys making stuff too. But I think the majority of content creators are solo ventures.

      In that most common scenario you would have a person not comfortable making content dating someone who does. That relationship is going to end eventually when OF creator is getting their sexual needs met and the SO isn’t getting enough attention to satisfy their needs.

      But of course there will always be outliers like asexual people or having opposite libidos. Which those situations might work great to have an OF side gig.

      But if we are talking the majority or people, I think its safe to say one OF creator dating a non-OF creator is probably not very likely.

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    So ive put a lot of thot into this, and after going through what I did with my ex wife, I think it wouldn’t be a problem so long as

    A. I know about it.

    B. I get access to it and all paid content

    C. No one else appears in it. This covers the whole “well that was an old video I uploaded” scenario too.

    D. The relationship is otherwise secure.

    E. But the real problem would be someone with an onlyfans wanting to date me.

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      It’s fine to not want to date someone with an onlyfans, but I feel like the guys who go out of their way to say it usually have other red flags about

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        Basically men who: —

        Could never get a woman that hot

        Get jealous easily

        Don’t like women having agency over their sexuality

        Don’t like women having agency over themselves full stop

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          Right I don’t see where you get the ability to mindread people nor guilt people into being in a relationship that they don’t want to be in.

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      I wouldn’t mind C, so long as it’s someone where all 3 of us are willing to have some fun together privately anyway

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      This is often assumed but most of the only fans adult content creators make very little. What if she makes very little but it just makes her feel sexy? I just want them to be happy in what they do.

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    Honestly I wouldn’t care too much it’s the weirdos who would harass her that would make me not like it.

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      Yeah, the drama that comes with it is probably the biggest issue – it will occupy some part of your cognitive energy.

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    I’ve dated a couple hot chicks back before OF and cam sites were mainstream, and honestly it’s tedious if you aren’t equally attractive. I wouldn’t have dated them if I wasn’t confident in the relationship but it’s still tedious when dudes will walk right up to yall and hit on her in front of her when you’re obviously together.

    It’s probably not something that’d be a problem now that I’m in my 30s, but I wouldn’t know cause I don’t get dates these days anyway 😂

    • Potatos_are_not_friends@lemmy.world
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      I hung out with my incel nephew and his friends. They went on and on about phoney girls with fake boobs.

      When I asked if any of them ever touched a “fake boob” before, the silence. Then the “Are any of you dating?” And yep, all I needed to know about them.

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    Yes. Girl does not have to be a superstart to send pics on OnlyFans and similar. Fetishes exists, she can show feet and have ugly face.