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Cake day: October 16th, 2023

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  • Kimberly’s emotions are 100% justified. She was kept out of decisions from the beginning, was given half- truths or only part of the information so she couldn’t make informed decisions for herself, was brought into a toxic environment where her partner made no attempt to be on her side…. Her disappointment, sadness, anger is all justified.

    That being said, she is responsible for her actions. Shrieking in someone’s face very rarely actually makes the situation better. I 100% understand how she got there; I even understood the first time when she arrived at the apartment after traveling for probably 20 hours to find that he had kept her in the dark about the progress on the build. I understand how she gets to that point with all the bullshit (figurative and literal) that family puts her through. She still needs to learn the skills to control herself and set boundaries even though she’s justified in being hurt.







  • What I heard is her saying was that she should not have done it ANYWAY but especially knowing now that he quit his job she realizes how wrong it was of her because it’s allowed her to see how selfish she was. It wasn’t shifting blame, it was acknowledging that new information shaped her perspective, as it does for all of us. As far as the money from Dane, that’s a whole other can of worms. I’m in now way justifying her behaviour, what she did sucks, I’m just appreciating the progress in having a calm, rational conversation without insults or screaming.