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Cake day: July 3rd, 2023

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  • Suppose you put your career on hold to help put your spouse through school. They’ll be earning 4 times what you are once they’re out of grad school, so you have turned down promotions and the like to keep the 2 of you as well as your kid afloat and catered to their schedule and needs while they go through this.

    Now your spouse wants to split with you once they’re out of school. You’d hitched your wagon to them and hadn’t planned for a future where you wouldn’t be moving forward as a unit.

    Because that’s the position I’m in now. Dammed fucking right I feel entitled to some sort of support given promises and vows were made.

    Gold diggers exist, sure… but get some life experience before some bullshit hot take about something you have zero experience with













  • I’ll go one further: I get (and respect) the utility of they/them pronouns for a singular entity, but it IS clunky and confusing. English is ever evolving but when I hear a “they” it is still very much more abstract and plural than a more specific he or she.

    Whatever: it’s my shit and I’ll gladly deal with a nanosecond of confusion and adjust if it allows people to maintain their dignity. Point is, by insisting that there’s nothing confusing about they/them in reference to a single entity feels disingenuous. I know moderate people who are otherwise live and let live as well as receptive to basic human dignity who are turned off by the confusing abstraction, switching tenses, etc.

    They/them isn’t the elegant, seamless drop in that people say it is and it hurts the messaging. I get that being rigid and forceful is necessary with the rampant transphobia and “i’m just asking (bad faith) questions” going on, but I still fuck up semantics and tenses like whoa