India is not a monolith. Not every family expects the exact same customs, and apparently TJ’s family is especially strict. Plus he blatantly lied to her about it. And you can be collectivist all you want but when it turns into misogyny it’s not okay. Enforced gender roles are not okay. Many Indian women feel that way too.
People are free to live as traditionally as they want to but it should be a choice. And yes, I mean globally. Culture is not more important than people’s right to self-determination.
Yeah her reaction to finding out the truth was totally justified. And her scream when he just would not listen is maybe not what I would do but I’d want to. Maybe she’s just more in touch with her emotions than I am. In any case, I really get sick of the hate for her and the excuses for him. It’s like people just think it’s no big deal to expect women to be submissive or give up their right to choose their life path if you use culture as an excuse. It’s such bullshit. That used to be the culture pretty much everywhere and now it’s not in a lot of places. Nothing of value was lost.